Hello Capriciousness. I can understand the emotional abuse and I know that it can be very hard to live with, but the covert stuff I cannot. I pretty much cut off all communications with my abusive parent which did help, especially after I started a family. I think that it would be best for you to move on with your life and be the best parent you can be for your family. I really don't think that you can expect anything positive from your father after all that has happened. I hope the best for you and your family.