Hello Butterflykdh, welcome to PC. Although I currently don't have a significant other to consider I do have family members with serious substance abuse issues so I do have some understanding of what you are going through. In particular, one of my nephews (who only recently just turned twenty) got involved in drugs approximately two years ago and, now, he has been ordered (by the courts) to have no contact with...well, with pretty much everyone (including his own mother and me) due his violent behavior and, sadly, he is also now homeless and living on the streets and has been for over a year. All of those who love and care for him have tried to help him but, unfortunately, he does NOT want help -- he "wants" to continue doing drugs and has chosen to stay on the streets, refusing any help that may be of benefit to him. He now continues on a downward spiral and all we (those of us who love and care for him) can do is wait until he hits rock bottom and WANTS to find his way back up. Of course, we cannot say if it will ever happen (he is very heavily involved) but we still remain hopeful and do what we can to help him, albeit from a distance. If there is any chance your husband would consider treatment please encourage him to do so. However, if he is unwilling, please at least consider a support group(s) for yourself as SmileHere suggested above because you still have to think about YOU and do what is best for yourself.

As for this forum itself, this is a great community for you to talk to and learn from others who may be dealing with much the same as you are so you are in a great place already. Stay strong and keep your chin up and big hugs to you!!