Thank you so much for sharing that with me. It is very helpful. I don't really know that I do think there is anything to be salvaged really. I don't want at this time to deal with cutting him out completely of my life (though he is mostly not part of my life. I just "see" him once in awhile for big family things). But you are making me think that perhaps the only real thing I can do in regards to all of my questions about interacting with him to to cut him off as much as possible and not feel bad about it. That that may be all I can do. Whether he knows he abused me or not.