Hey Capriciousness,

I totally agree with Jamles on this one....Whether a parent appreciates that they hurt you is neither here nor there, you as an adult get to decide who you allow in your life. Having the title of 'parent' blood or otherwise is not a 'get out of jail free' card. A perpetrator is a perpetrator plain and simple....there is no excuse. So to answer your question 'How do you have an adult relationship with your abuser'?....you don't. Your father gave up that privilege years ago.

Be kind to yourself Capriciousness.