There are lots of ways to meet men , I personally would not tell them right away that your a virgin because that is a great way to be used . Guys have a thing about being the first one so if you go telling people this your going to attract the wrong guy and feel used afterwords . So my advice is if you do meet a guy and you both have sexual chemistry and you both are ready for sex then tell him you never been with anyone that way you will know that he wants you and not just to be the first .
As for using a vibrator and you enjoy it then go for it I mean this gives you a chance to know your body and what you like and what you don't like so when you find a man you can say I like this or that .