You dont mention in your post if you two have met in real life ? If so, how was the visit ? How long have you been together?

Im not a Doctor but it sounds like your having panic and or anxiety attacks...

Your Boyfriend not wanting to help you feel better is rude and disrespectful and not the way to treat someone you love .. What are the good qualities he has ? Is this common for him to ignore your needs?

Sounds like you may want to talk to a Therapist to help you feel better and learn ways to keep yourself mentally healthy while have a long distance relationship.

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