Well I think that this can certainly stay in your memory bank for some time... but ... how did you feel about this guy prior to this event.

I think that you have plenty to be ticked about ....but... can I play devil's advocate?

New daddy....
Wishing to integrate with his child and help his wife
Blowing it professionally but perhaps overwhelmed.... should do it differently in the future and perhaps he has learned from this event. Trust me I bet others have been letting him know how THEY feel too.

I think that the significant point at this point (not that all previous stuff is not relavent as it is...) is how he deals from this point forward. I think he needs to be genuine with you and not just ignore all that this has meant to you. YOu have shared abundantly in your emails.... lots of significant stuff.

Might this be addressed over time?

I wish I could say the perfect thing but hey...I do not know.

I hope that you will take care of your folks but pay special attention to KT.... allow her to express her feelings and try to protect her better than apparently you were ... as a child.

Would you like to soothe KT or let her express herself. Were you allowed to express your feelings .... in your childhood?