I'm not sure what to tell you. People with personality disorders don't tend to realize their impact on other people. I have felt throughout my life that I was invisible to just about everyone and therefore had no impact. It hurts to look at the damage and debris that I leave in my wake. It's like, whoa, I couldn't have done all that! And I'm not even into drugs and stuff. So, she's not going to want to see it, and I don't think there is anything anyone can do to make her come around. Eventually people with BPD might make enough of a mess out of their own lives that they will be bothered enough to seek help. That's what to watch for - when she starts to look around and question what she's doing. Until then, take care of yourself and mind your boundaries and don't let her turn your life upside down.

TC,
Rap