there is a new wrinkle... I left my T after he revealed he is involved with Narconon... I will not be involved with someone with such close ties to Scientology....

so now, it's just me and my wife trying to work things out.. after talking about it...I bought her a small vibrator.. but, she hasn't even tried it out, yet.

we haven't had sex in weeks.. she's really busy with work..... she knows I want sex more often.... but, it seems to me like she's just minimizing my needs... she just says "I know. sorry, I'm really busy.."

and that's about the size of it... I did mention I thought she should look into getting some help for her lack of desire... but, unfortunately, knowing my wife the way I do.. she probably won't.

I don't know how long I'm supposed to put up with this crap.

it appears she is putting me in the position where I must either accept that I'm married to a woman who doesn't care about sex all that much (even though that's not the woman I thought I was marrying), or I must do something drastic like ask for a separation... something I'm not prepared to do right now...