Ok, at your age of 19, most of your peirs are looking for approval and are finding their way just like you. When you ask advice from your piers, they are not really going to have that much knowledge and typically what happens is they too are looking for some kind of mentor that they can learn from too. The term "user" could really be applied to just about any of your piers too, because that is what your age group does, they explore "with" others and tend to want to be around others that are braver at exploring.

Typically at your age group what happens is that individuals group together that have similar likes or activities they like to participate in. If you don't have anything that drives you or that you have passions about, and are waiting to connect with someone else that can carry you along somehow, you won't have much luck and could end up just servicing someone else and being "used", that is typically what happens.

You are much better off taking time to get involved with different activities/groups where you can learn things and develop yourself. A lot of teens seem to think "here I am ready for friends come be my friend", but never really developed themselves so what do they really have to offer?

School only teaches us "how to learn" and we develop over time and from what we keep learning overall. At 19 most think they are supposed to "be ready", but the truth is, they are not ready at all. High school is merely a hill, not a mountain that would be what really cultivates a young mind.

It never ceases to amaze me how many your age and early 20's think they should be much more accomplished socially then they are. Most people who are older always wish they knew in these young years what they now know. The truth is, the reason they feel that way is because they have experienced more things in their lives, so, they have a better understanding of all the things you are wondering about.

You do have the internet so you can look things up too. Also what else are you doing right now?