I understand where you're coming from. I also instantly suspect guys only have sexual intentions if they seem to be flirting with me in bars etc., guess it has something to do with the setting. Apart from that I usually get along great with guys, the problems ensues when they start flirting with me. Know it sounds crazy, lol, and I know flirting back isn't exactly dangerous, but still...

I also have a problem with FINDING guys in general. I don't understand how people do that. I mean, I have a set group of friends, male and female, but I am not interested in any of them in that way. When I go out it seems everyone just wants to hook up (I'm 23, so it's "that age" where that's all everyone wants to do, men and women) and it's impossible to have a proper conversation. If I try online dating I never seem to find who I'm looking for, besides I find it a bit awkward (my worst nightmare would be if any friends found me on a dating site, I once deleted a profile I had spent a lot of time on because I recognized one of the guys on there). I "know" everyone at school and the people I work with already. I am just a call-in at my work place and most of the others my age there are aswell, so it changes a lot who works there and when. There is one guy there I felt an instant attraction to, my friend thought he was ugly but I disagree (she said "it's too bad he's not good looking, or he would be a total catch") but I suspect he has a girlfriend from something he said once when we all went out for beers after work, and I wouldn't know how to approach him about it, it's awkward when you know you will be seeing each other again and he has worked there longer than me. I don't really understand how I am supposed to meet new people, particularly not "new guys", really. I mean, yes, I sometimes do meet new people at parties etc., but the same applies as the bars. I go out quite a lot and go to quizzes etc., but being chatty with other people there doesn't seem natural. I am too much of a coward to do things alone, such as join meetup.com-groups and stuff because I hate it when there's an established gang that I try to fraternize with if there is no one else in the same situation. But of course, that could be an option. I don't really go to the gym and I certainly don't go there to meet guys, a lot of the guys there seem a bit superficial and I don't exactly feel attractive in the gym.

So, if you partly add your issue of being a bit distrustful when a situation actually comes up, with my issue of not understanding where I am supposed to meet someone who is similiar to me, then you can see that I don't exactly get much action either (neither sexually nor on the love front in general).