Lately T's behavior has changed. She is getting more casual w/ boundaries and with staying neutral a lot. Even boundaries she explicitly told me she needed to stick to. I feel like she is thinking of me as different than a typical client.

And for some reason since last week i'm feeling overwhelmed with nurturing feelings toward her and the feeling that I wish I could check up on her and see if she is Ok, and I am feeling, erm, like a maternal love for her.

This is weird because she's quite a bit older and further along in life than me. And I am not a mother. Has anyone had this happen? I feel like this is my stuff coming out. I usually end up as the therapist in my relationships. I don't have much of a self to present in therapy so I never feel like I'm really known... :/ in that way people say their therapist knows all about them. Even some casual friends know more about me than T, idk. There's nothing in me that can easily go, "this relationship is special/different," except the fact that it is structure. But I do get transferences based on her reactions to me. And I consistently treat her unconditionally positively and never demand anything of her, just like other people. I feel like that's at fault. I feel like maybe that caused her to have transference? but i may be totally wrong, that's the thing... I just know she is behaving differently and my feelings have changed too.