Oh I see. I watched a lousy mom never doing anything for us her example is get abused by the man you're with and be miserable why bother being independent? She said you need to be independent but would flip flop which is sending your own daughter mixed messages about Independence as a woman. Yep, went to therapy a big joke considering I could have taught it myself! I got more help/insight from women at the women's center with my social worker than from a textbook knowledge therapist!

My sister said Army guy needs to be truthful and him using his uniform to gain women and respect is a big red flag his words sound abusive. I've had his ex girlfriends tell me he was controlling this was before he went into the Army and thought he changed. My mom is content in her abusive situation yet still *****ing about no change and mad at the world for not saving her. We get told she made sacrifices and idiots out there said but she is your mom and tried her best. Really? Letting your kids suffer and putting them at harm is really a mother doing her best!