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Originally Posted by JustShakey
This sounds dangerous to me Sweetie. I remember feeling like this towards previous T towards the end, and I was later told that she felt it would have been unethical to keep seeing me; that she didn't feel that she was able to help me.
Like you, I too was treating her unconditionally positive, despite her saying and doing some pretty nasty things to me, because she had scared me pretty badly early on, and I was irrationally terrified of what she might do to me. I think that kind of adoration can be a very hard thing for some people (not just Ts) to resist.
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Thanks shakey!! yes I am worried that something could trigger this to get in termination territory though it's so hard to imagine. That's the thing, I don't have any self esteem, I tell myself this is just in my head and she's just fine. Kind of like "wow, what gall I have to think someone would be affected by me..." I don't believe it even if I see and feel signs of it. I see what you mean though. I have never been treated how I am treating T. I can imagine how it would be more difficult to deal with than I realized.
Was what she did to you during that transference at the end or before? I have never felt mistreated by her, only occasionally I feel that she resists some things bc she is not sure she knows how to treat them competently. Not to pry but did you terminate bc of these issues or unrelated?
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Originally Posted by CantExplain
The real danger with maternal feelings is that your T might not want to be mothered.
There is a level of intimacy with a therapist that screams "family". How that plays out and what roles you take is a very personal thing.
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So she could start getting very negative feelings potentially? I don't want that
It's pretty obvious why this is happening. It's just like my relationship with my real mom, except T hasn't betrayed me... I guess I need to read more about it. Don't see T for a bit. But I can't help having this feeling that I'm affecting her personal life somehow and am worried abt her. I wish I felt comfortable contacting her :/