Esthersvirtue, I don't think it is about the "extent" to which your T can/cannot love you but "how" and why. Sitting with you and holding your hand wouldn't make you any stronger, any better, which is what your T would like to help with, it would actually be a disservice to you. Think how when children are young they want sweets, candy, things that aren't necessarily good for them. Love is good/necessary for everyone but what we "want" is not necessarily the same as "love." I think your T is loving you well in working with you the way she is, unlike your mother who did not and unlike the craving for "sweets" you currently feel.