Thread: Directed Anger.
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Old May 05, 2007, 11:12 AM
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my t wants me to express anger with him, but i don't want to. i guess thats why he keeps saying 'i'm not your mother'. 'cause he figures that my mother used to punish me if i expressed anger with her. try and hurt me or withdraw from me or whatever. maybe...

sometimes that can happen for people. they can't express anger because the object would hurt them. or leave them. or maybe there is a fear that the anger will be so intense that it will kill them. its hard to have the anger but not act on it so people tend to numb it out or something like that. not feel it. go numb. or be sad instead.

somepeople think that anger is kinda brute / fundamental. biological urge. otherpeople think that anger is a response to frustrated needs / libidinal urges. when our needs are frustrated then anger is an understandable response to that. except of course sometimes it isn't safe to express it / feel it.