((((((((((((((such a big hug to you))))))))))))))))

oh ray i know how you feel. my dad lost some small change down the side of my chair when i was skint broke and desperate and actually came back to fetch it, knowing i was in financial trouble. i had two babies at the time. he only calls when he has news of a family death or wants something.l never had his love or was told he loved me.

he spends all his time with my step sister and her kids, i am an only child, his own flesh and blood, no help, just put me downs and guilt trips.
for the first time in my life at the moment i am putting him to the back of my mind and keeping him out of my life.
you are right to ask for help when you need it, you are not sponging from granma, she loves you and you support each other, he seems very selfish and doesn't understand you or know you very well. i hear and feel for you, it hurts.
my dad knows diddly squat about my kids or me, but i have my own family and rely on them and get love from my kids. you have a loyal and understanding granma and b/f and i give them both a hug for supporting you. and it goes without saying how many people love you in here too.

pm anytime, love you sweetie, kerry xoxoxoxoxo