Hi, Sher. How difficult and painful for you! Have you asked your therapist if she could call him or have him come in on his own? Maybe she can chat with him and convince him to see someone for either couple's therapy or on his own and have a referral, etc. Having one of the professionals who has helped you talk to him (doctor from the hospital?) might make him understand the gravity/necessity of his getting help if he wants to help you and the marriage? I set my husband and I up to have the same doctor/medical staff and I imagine if I had a problem with my health I had trouble getting him to understand I'd ask them to talk together.