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Originally Posted by Can't Stop Crying
i am a firm believer in the "dis-inhibition" factor when it comes to all forms of social media, the identity we present from behind the safety of our computer screen may or may not be an accurate depiction of our actual selves.
first impressions are hard to shake, if i found someone creepy or exhibiting stalking behaviors, i would do everything in my power to avoid future contact with this person. in the virtual world, it is far too easy to block or ignore someone so the only flaw i find in this theory is that you will not have an opportunity to "make her laugh". while i understand the thought process behind your theories, i find it hard to believe that is a successful strategy in reality.
agreed - unfortunately, the influx of media in our lives has increased the value of looks and popularity imo. also this brings me back to my original statement, the identity portrayed through social media is not always accurate.
i guess, if you are interested in pursuing a relationship with someone you met through social media, what attracted you to her?
finally, when expressing an interest in a female, irregardless of the venue, tread lightly, present yourself honestly, and go where the path may lead....
relentless pursuing an individual who does not have an interest in you will most likely not turn out well.
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I agree with you generally and specially for this "finally, when expressing an interest in a female, irregardless of the venue, tread lightly, present yourself honestly, and go where the path may lead...." being honest and straightforward is very good whether in dating or in general relationships.
I only disagree with you regarding the probable fake identity, I believe that it is not so hard to figure out whether that person appears fake, tricky or a real respectable person, just watching his posts, comments and his interaction with his friends give you a big certain indication and impression, also spotting the same person on other social media websites can help recognizing the truth. I am talking in a generic way, for sure there are always odds.
We see everyday fake people in real life, coworkers, friends...etc so what would you think about the internet, you will never know the real person without getting to know him for a long time and regular interaction, I just say that spotting one person with the same identity and attitude on several social or professional networks may increase the trust.
The topic is so complicated and depends on many factors and circumstances.