Oh dear, I hate when people fling things from history into the present.

Maybe once things calm down you two can sit down and discuss it all ? The thing is its okay to fight but you both need to learn to "fight fair" Is Couples Therapy a option?

My husband could not understand how Bipolar could cause me so many problems until my T talked to him bluntly about it. Has your wife tried to get a good picture of your illness?