Thank you Esthervirtue for your thoughts. I understand your thought about planning before hand but of course this was not my choice but his parents. I live in predominately white area so for him to have other children around like him is null. I have thought about a mentor for him but without going to big city...1 1/2hr drive....I dont think its possible. I try and talk with him about his heritage and I think it helps but nothing will replace his father or his fathers side of family. As of now his paternal grandparents have seen him once when he was 6 months old and chooses not to be a part of his life. His father is in prison since my grandson has been 9months old and isn't scheduled to get out of prison until 2011. So he doesn't have the cultural side of his fathers. I think that is very important but at this point nothing can be done about that.
Once again thank you for your thoughts...they are very much appreciated.
Snow