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Originally Posted by SmileHere
Thanks hvert & Bill3!
Friend #2 has been calling me, I ignored the calls partly on purpose partly cause I wasn't able to answer/listen/talk at the time, and she texted me with 'such is Life' or something like that, putting the blame on me again, for being so 'oversensitive' or such. At least that is the way I interpreted it. I tried to be more assertive about my feelings/wishes, but she still didn't 'get' it (hard to do over text message/s). I'm a bit at a loss over what kind of words to use, although we 'practiced' a bit with my psychologist - who said she lacks in empathy, apparently, which may be true.
Friend #1 still wishes to come to our house, yikes. I haven't said anything of the past. I let it slide and we just talked about other things.
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Regardless if you are oversensitive or not, your friends should act like friends. It does sound like they lack empathy.
It seems they tell you your oversensitive because they can't and won't acknowledge their shortcomings and insensitivity. It's common for those who feel like they have done a lot wrong to project their feelings of self hate onto who they see as a "better" person.
People don't like to admit to their faults; it's much easier for them to blame you.
Take care.