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esthersvirtue said:
Hi All,

I don't know if I can deal with getting less than some emotional comfort. I don't know how she could convey it to me. I know some have said their T's hold their hand and hug.

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(((EV))) I know exactly what you are saying here. I want and need the same thing and it is never going to happen. My T says this is all not about him. Maybe it's not all about him but some of it is. I think I know the difference. I also recognize that I'm not getting hand holding, hugging or much of anything else from my husband or family. So my T is the closest person to me and I'm looking to him for it.

Even if I found the perfect mate who gave me what I needed emotionally, it is not going to change how I feel about my T and what I'd like from him once in awhile. I know other T's do hug when needed. I'll never ask for any of it though. No way!

Some days, I want to give up to EV. I want to run a lot of time and just stop wishing for something that is never going to happen. I try to refocus this on me and it's just a never ending cycle. That is why last week I called my post up...down...up...down.

It's a rollercoaster...