I'm so sorry to hear of what happened to you LizzieVale. I can understand your initial reaction, my husband has a problem, and I thought it was my fault, but when we separated, I dated other men, and it wasn't me, it was him. So I don't need to look for that validation from my T. But I do understand you looking for that validation, that it was your husband, not you. I'm so sorry to hear that your husband is now filing for divorce. I don't think he accepts he has a part in this, not telling you the side effects of his surgery.