Thank you, Travelinglady, for your thoughtful response.
I told my husband on Thursday that I filed for divorce. He took it better than I imagined he would (thank goodness because my imagination can really run wild!). And you were exactly right - it was all about him. He tried to make me feel guilty -that he has no where to go (not true, just no where he WANTS to go). Then he decided that he was too upset to spend the day with the kids as he had planned to do, disappointing them. For now, though, I feel a bit of relief. I think when he gets served with the papers (sometime this week) that things could change.
Thank you again.