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Originally Posted by ~Christina
I feel that to a point you do need to just accept some of your friends behavior. I mean if you want them to accept you as you are , doesn't that mean you should accept them as they are also? Who determines what is not important ? I would assume the person that is talking feels that it is important.
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Thanks for your 2cents! You do have a point.
I feel I've been very accepting and understanding. I like them and it's part of who they are. I just want to have 'tools' to deal with it in an assertive way when it happens, if needed and if I might get overwhelmed by it.
Sometimes one was loud and seemed in bigger emotional distress than really was, or the discussion wasn't so important to her, that's what I meant by 'unimportant things' - that I may have 'overreacted' to something that has been not so significant to her, we had a discussion with one friend about this in the past. She's just very expressive.
And I've had hyperacusis (sound sensitivity).
I sometimes get angry and loud too, but I try not to burden my friends with too much of it. Plus, sometimes it's been about things/'controversial issues' they did not understand and haven't been supportive of. (Like the smoking, environmentalism...)