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Originally Posted by ChipperMonkey
If she's willing to cheat on her boyfriend to be with you, don't be shocked when she cheats on you with another guy. Yes, of course you'll feel "special" if she chooses you, but the truth is that she is a player with no class. How trashy.
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That's something I've believed myself at one point and it is something that the internet likes to remind me. I never thought or believed I'd be the other guy. As I never saw anything special in myself that would make chicks leave their bf's.
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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster
Dorian is prepared for that - quoting from the post before yours: "The cruelest - but at the same time the kindest - gift of the world is that we never know what will happen. So I'm familiar with the idea that even if she leaves her bf now for me she might get cold feet and go back to him. Or meet someone else. One thing at a time. "
and, I must say, the depth of understanding the human condition (that the cruelest experience is at the same time the kindest gift) and the eloquence in expressing it simply and succinctly has blown me away, especially given Dorian's young age and the fact that he is not writing in his native language (I assume it is Finnish).
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Yep. I'm prepared for pretty much anything but most of all I'm prepared for the pain. I've already accepted the things I've done and have told her that if worse comes to worst I will take full responsibility. Wether or not she has brainwashed me to do it is up for debate but I honestly don't see her as an evil manipulative person.
Again thanks! I've had pretty mature thoughts at a young age. I've always liked philosphy and such.
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Originally Posted by A Red Panda
Dorian, there's nothing wrong with how you feel or with what you want.
You did make a poor choice in indulging in actions with her when you know she has a boyfriend. You really should have respected that guy more than you did. At the same time, she also chose to betray him and ultimately the problem is with her - she's playing two of you at the same time.
Both you and her bf deserve better than that.
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I know... and that's one of the things that feel awful. I mean when I imagine if something like that happened to me I'd be devastated. So you're right. I should've been smarter and more respectful of the guy.
But this is like a drug. The more I got it the more I wanted it and then it kinda exploded in to this kind of mess.
Thanks for you response!
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Originally Posted by ladytiger
OMG! I am in this same situation the thing is I am attached and this Army guy I know from high school has proclaimed his love for me yet is being pushy on wanting an answer. I haven't spoken to him lately but my boyfriend knows about it now and he doesn't want me talking to him. It's like Army guy expects me to drop my bf now yet wants me to give him a reason why he wants to be with me as he doesn't wanna wait on me. That's his damn fault for doing that because he should have told me this a few years ago that he is in love with me not wait until I am still in a relationship!
Give him a reason why he wants to be with me makes no sense. I am not sure if he will contact me. Amazing how your story is kinda similar to what I am going through...
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That is pretty wild. How do you feel about the Army Guy though?