I think we all adjust to the different people we're with whilst retaining some fundamental attitudes. Personally i'm not the overly affectionate sort. Soppiness makes me gag as does PDA. I feel love doesn't need to be on show - it doesn't prove or reinforce anything. I doubt i would seek out someone like this in the first place but i'm sure that we'd both change somewhat during the actual relationship. Essentially if a balance can't be reached a relationship ceases to exist...there are specific needs which initiate a relationship and specific needs which end one.