There's a school of therapy, Gestalt, practiced around confrontation, a 1970s Essalen/encounter group thing. And other therapists, who see Dr. Phil as their oracle, imitate his technique.

You honestly spoke up that style wasn't for you, and you say your therapist didn't react well. I think its perfectly legitimate to ask a therapist what she's doing and why.

I personally don't find confrontation "good for me." I find authoritarianism diminishes me and doesn't encourage my autonomy.

I also believe that therapy should be reducing drama, not contributing to it. Worrying overtime about therapy is adding problems to problems.

Some people, including therapists, have a limited toolbox. They won't change-- because they can't.