I am 28 yrs old and bf is 34. I have a different mindset on children. I do not hate them, but I hated my childhood seeing all that **** makes me not want to have kids again, why? I feel no matter how much therapy you went through, something can still be triggered and you could repeat those patterns from your abusive parents to your kids and I feel some victims of abuse shouldn't have kids we could end up having those triggers.

I was never close to children growing up I was used to being around teens/college students because my siblings are 18 and 14 yrs older than me. I love pets better than a child, I find animals are easier to deal with than a human. In this economy, to me, I have student loan debt and still trying to fix my broken *** life that I am not even emotionally available to raise a child. I wanted to be the kind of woman to go on an adventure, travel, etc but I never became that kind of woman.

With children, why can't we take care of the ones in foster care? We can't even take care of the ones hurting and needing a home yet we can do it the old fashion way to get a baby and take care of the one we produced vs the ones who were thrown away. I told one woman one time having kids isn't everything, not many people were meant to have kids.