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Originally Posted by zinco14532323
Probably hard to figure out if it is their issue or it is really in the way you are communicating. Passive aggressive is anger coming out in all sorts of weird ways. Sarcasm being the most common. Tone of voice and little nuanced things and body language. I guess it takes a lot of self honesty to figure out if it is you or them. I used to want to record my daughter and the way she talked to her mother. if she heard herself on tape i am sure she would have been shocked. i never did it though. probably hard to video yourself because then you would be playing to the camera. if there is a pattern then maybe take a look at yourself and what you could do differently.
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The last thing wasn't really anything about anger...just misunderstood something rather minor so thought at most I might have expressed confusion. But I don't know....Also I obsess over that sort of stuff already like 'what did I do wrong, what can I not do or do differently' and even to the point I am probably in danger of blaming things on myself that are more to do with other people. Doesn't help that I already feel like crap about myself if I am always looking for what I am doing wrong on top of that, besides when I do I still screw up, maybe I try too hard and should just quit trying to do things differently or not bother people. I'd like to think I am not that unbearable, if I am I should probably do everyone a favor and....not continue on too much longer so I hope its nothing to the degree you are descibing your daughter and her mom.