I do not think that you have a kind of fate that says that nobody will ever like to be with you. It does not make any sense. But you can take this as a learning step. Perhaps the guy has his own issues and who knows what kind of trigger the situation was for him. But, simply, if you did not feel attracted by him, he may have perceived it. And, if you somehow gave some indication of your dislikes, he may have felt he needed to stop seeing you. We all want to be admired and loved, it is an unconscious need. Naturally we have the tendency to refuse people that dislike us, unless our self esteem is deficient, IMO. Sometimes, we don't realize the multiple messages we send to the other. And dating puts us in a vulnerable spot.
The good thing is that you allow yourself having this experience. Maybe, you can also take the opportunity to revisit your responses or the way you behaved. Often you say stuff like if you had some intrinsic characteristic or components that makes you unlikable. Here at the forum you are very likeable and interesting to me, so ... Are you doing something that is eccentric or weird when you go out?
I was thinking that maybe partially you may be doing or saying something you do not notice.
__________________
ClaraHope is definitely not the same thing as optimism. It is not the conviction that something will turn out well, but the certainty that something makes sense, regardless of how it turns out. Vaclav Havel
|