Mothers have often given this advice when it comes to marriage: When in doubt, don't! I've followed that advise, but have yet to know whether I made the right decision. I guess I would say = you are pretty young yet to 'settle'... . I don't know; I feel like a hypocrit saying these things to you, because I have given up on passion, and I don't know that the fact that I'm 20 years older than you are makes what I've done any wiser of a course to take. I DO wish you happiness no matter what you do. :-)