This is a quote taken from a post you posted in the autism/asperger's forum.......I think that this may be part of the foundation of the issues you are talking about here. Part of asperger's is misunderstanding what others say & taking them literally & from my personal experience living with someone for 33 years, it was very difficult for him to express himself & he was always coming across as passive aggressive even though I finally realize that he wasn't passive aggressive but it was the way his reactions came across through his behavior.

Think if you look logically at your situation & put it in relation to what you have been diagnosed with you might have a better understanding of yourself.....& if your family would learn more about you & what makes you react the way you do, they need to have a better understanding of you also.

Just a thought on a possible answer to your question.