S47 thanks for this post, it is one of the most interesting and liberating I have seen. The very notion of asking what people think of you is one I find alien, worrying and extraordinary, yet and yet and yet, suppose someone did put their hand on my shoulder and say, "Ebenezer since you ask and because I am your friend, I will tell you what I think of you": "You are frighteningly direct, abrupt with people, impatient, react badly to fools, you never show your feelings, smile infrequently and seldom say much, people find you aloof and unknowable and dread your sudden losses of temper and changes of mood that come out of the blue with no warning [and lots of other things I am unaware of I expect]". Being a friend they might qualify that with good aspects they perceive in me, but by then I would not be listening.

I would die inside, go bright red, bluster, try and change the subject although I know all these things to be true!