Sorry for the long post, but I've got a situation that is making my depression worse and I guess I just need to lay it out there. I've got a husband who is having a difficult time dealing with my most recent and lengthy bout with severe depression. I don't envy him - I'm not easy to live with. But his response to my illness is making things worse. Two days ago, late in the day, I made an appointment at an intensive out patient treatment center for depression, and after all the kids' activities, homework, lunches for the next day, etc. were all set I was tired and went to bed without telling him about the appointment. When I woke up the next morning I told him right away, and gave him all of the information I knew about the clinic and the program. He seemed ok with it, and left for work. A short while later he came back home, super upset, and told me he didn't understand why I hadn't told him about the appointment, and seemed to doubt that I had been honest with him about WHEN I had made the appointment and WHY. I told him again all of the information about the appointment and said I thought it was a GOOD thing to try this out. He agreed, but was still upset with me and proceeded to stare at his lap with a wounded expression on his face, as if I had done something wrong, and he sat there for FOUR HOURS refusing to say anything else to me. How on earth do I deal with a spouse who makes this depression about HIM and isn't fully supportive of me and my efforts to get better??? It seems as though nothing I do is good enough for him. He is always upset with me. Does anyone else have a partner who does this? How do you move on and truly recover from depression with this type of negativity? I kept asking him if he'd like to talk, if he had any questions for me, if HE was depressed and needed anything, etc. but he wouldn't say anything. He accuses me of not being open with him, and then he behaves this way. I really don't need head games right now. I'm so tired of it I'm ready to ask him to move out for a while so I can have a break from it, but we have 3 school-aged kids and it would devastate them. I feel trapped. If I ask him to go get therapy on his own, he will get defensive and angry with me. I suppose I could insist that he gets therapy and not worry about his anger towards me, or just keep trying to talk reasonably (which doesn't work), or just try to ignore his behavior. It's driving me even crazier than I already am.