hi tangled
i applaud you for being non-judgmental, but think you are taking it to the extreme. you are right that this is unhealthy but what you dont address in your post is the fact that you are accepting of the fact that he is also cheating on you and you seem to be ok with that as well. if he wont go address this in therapy, i think that it is something you need to go address in therapy yourself because this is not ok. he souldnt expect you to watch this and you shouldnt even consider watching your boyfriend have sex with the woman he is cheating on you with. you deserve better than that. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome