((Spidygal))
Just want to say I can understand a bit about how you feel. Similarly, I was a victim of a one time abuse. I hadn't really thought about it for years but things have been triggered in recent months. There are some things I wouldn't be happy about my husband doing just now, too. He is loving and understanding but even so it's easy for something to be difficult for me without him realising it.
I hope you can find a way through things, and that your husband can start to see what is reasonable and what is most emphatically not.

Bluegrey