SnakeCharmer......you are exactly right....the family dynamics can magnify & create problems out of things that only could be problems if the environment takes them to that place.........It's not 100% us or 100% them.....it's the mixture when it comes all together that's usually when the problem's arise......it's important to look at ourselves & understand what might be our own issues as in reality, we can only change us not them....having an understanding of self & them is a very good idea