I half expect that he has been reading my emails and facebook messages and saw one that was between my friend and I, talking about making the appointment. (She encouraged me to do it and I thought it was a good idea.) I think he refused to talk to me the next morning because he had been reading my personal stuff and didn't know how to tell me he was upset without giving that away. One time he told me he knew what I was doing on the computer during the days when I was home, which totally creeped me out. Not sure if he read my stuff or just looked at my history, or even has spyware on my laptop, but why would he do any of that?? He obviously doesn't trust me, and at this point I don't trust him completely. Maybe this is his way of trying to understand what I'm going through, but it would be a whole lot better if he would just ASk me about how I'm doing and what he could do to support me, instead of acting all put out and sulking. Maybe he isn't reading my personal stuff. I'm not really sure, I just suspect it. Either way, he's not helping. Perhaps the folks at the intensive out patient place will have some words of wisdom on what to do about spouses like this.