no, you dont have to remember it for it to have taken place. our mind blocks out traumatic memories to protect us. but the feelings you describe are certainly important to talk about. there isa reason you are feeling them. i offer you a warning though. make sure your therapist understands abuse and can handle it or she may just brush it off as unimportant. that does not mean it isnt, it just means she cant handle it. t's have their own baggage. i spent 3 years with a t who kept brushing off my trauma everytime i brought up thoughts or feelings about my past. i felt very discounted. i started with a t that specializes in trauma this year. it has made a world of difference. i have been so validated. my old t didnt even have me diagnosed correctly. i was suffering so much anxiety and he would just say i was an anxious responder and had no coping skills for me. now that my trauma is being addressed i am nearly off meds for my anxiety. the right provider makes all the difference.