I agree with every word ChipperMonkey wrote.

TampaGirl, I'm so sorry this happened to you. You did nothing wrong, your bio half-brother has severe flaws in his character and I don't see any way you could ever trust him again.

You may want a big brother and some family very badly, but none of us need this kind of thing in our lives. Support groups for people who've grown up in fractured and dysfunctional families urge those of us who long for those close connections to create our own families, with friends we can trust. That's what I've done and it works.

About 15 years ago, a long lost male relative who'd been taken away by his mother when he was an infant made contact. He was charming and smart, fun and devilishly good-looking. Everyone loved him. I tried, but I got a bad vibe and kept my distance. That relative is now serving time for sex offenses against both adults and children. The family members who got closest to him were shattered.

I had no proof, just a vibe, that there was something not right with this charming young man. You have proof. The problem is not you. It's him.

Sometimes it's better to have no family at all than to invite someone dangerous into your home and your heart. I'm so sorry you've experienced this big shock. Please take care and please know you did nothing wrong, nothing to deserve what he did. Please keep yourself safe.

I wish you the best.