Sky, am I right in thinking that anger can also show itself covertly? Say for exmaple, before I recognized and dealt with my repressed anger, I feel as if I behaved in a manner that would stir up an argument or an outright fight, although not physical.

My ex-husband was guilty of this, too, and maybe I learned it from him, but there were times when he'd manipulate me into an argument. This followed me into other relationships. I became aware of it when a friend told me, "I'm not going to argue with you." For some reason, that one statement made me aware of how argumentative I was! Can't say as I've totally overcome that fault.