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Originally Posted by StressedMess
So what you are saying is, instead of having an inner dialogue with my good self vs. my bad self ("I'm worthless""no you're not, you're deserving""I'm stupid""no you're not you're developing your growing edge") that I should just let the "I'm worthless" float in and out of my thoughts? Therefore not giving it special attention or being conscious of it, thereby making it a fleeting thought instead of a constant battle?
I love the sound of it! Do you have to be in a certain place in your healing? For instance, my self-esteem was sunk into the bottom of the toilet, but after a few months of therapy, it's starting to rise up. Not very far yet, definitely still in the bowl, but maybe around the level of the hard water stain. Sorry for the gross analogy![emoji9]
Anyway, if you're not prepared to listen and release the thought, could it somehow set you back or be otherwise detrimental? Thanks for any insight.
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Not 100% sure if it can be detrimental. The first metaphor in the workbook my T lent me is about quicksand. If your stuck in quicksand, the worst thing you can do is fight it. You fight it, you'll sink more. But if you try to spread out the surface area of contact with the sand by trying to float on your back and "be one" with the sand, you can rolk yourself out of it. So the concept of ACT is to not fight against your psychological suffering.
The second metaphor was of a person fight on a battlefield in a war. If you are fighting, you believe that the outcome is the most important. You believe the only way to live a life worth living is to win the war. But you actually have a choice. You can choose to walk off the battlefield. The war will still continue. The sights and sounds and terrain will remain the same. But you can still go on and live a worthwhile life.
It makes a point to question how long have you experienced the things you psychologically suffer from the most? It's not the things that have occurred recently, but things that happened a long time ago. And we have tried the conventional common techniques to stop struggling, but the pain still exists. So like the quicksand, maybe it's time to try something that goes against the popular concepts of therapy.
I only made it to page 5 with that much information...lol. I like it so far.