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Originally Posted by hankster
I think your needs came first. She asked you twice. First in session, and you said no. Actually you said maybe, but that was the same as a no to her, in terms of someone BEING there. Then she asked you again, and you said no. Actually, my t would have been a little mad at you for wanting to skip in the first place, for not presenting the budget issue as a problem for the TEAM to solve.
I know its scary and hard to say yes. But look at it from her point of view - she just wanted a body in the chair at that time next week. You were willing to let her twist in the wind - thats not very nice. Did she complain? No. She asked you again. Now YOU are complaining. And kind of wallowing in it. But from another point of view, maybe you bear some responsibility? I want you to buck up, buttercup!  |
I wouldn't have tolerated it if she had gotten mad at me for wanting to skip a week. I don't handle things like that well and would probably have quit. I tend to panic when I'm forced into things.
And no, I'm not going to complain to her. I understand why she did it. But the reality is that it still hurts even though I understand it. What the people on this thread don't seem to be understanding is that I would feel really awful and incredibly selfish for taking that spot knowing someone else could use it.
I didn't even get a chance to think about whether I wanted to be there or not. It's my birthday. Did I really want to go do therapy on my birthday? I was texted while I was still driving home from the appointment. Not a lot of time to change my mind, or make up my mind.
Part of it is how she framed it, too. She said she couldn't give me a birthday card or present (therapy boundaries), but she could offer a free appointment and she would let me think about it and decide whether I wanted to come in. So it felt like she was taking back the "gift" she was giving me, too.