From what I read here, most T's deal with the everyday stuff first, and clear the junk out a bit, so to speak, before giving you skills to cope with things, and then they can dig a bit further. This made me realise why my T said the timing was a bit screwed up to start now, but I was relieved to put it on hold. I'm doing some constructive homework at the moment and it is helping. The anxiety that I'm going to feel later on is way bigger than the anxiety I cope with at the moment, so if I can manage small anxieties, then I can manage bigger ones later on. I hope that made sense. I didn't want to trigger anyone by saying that T's don't dive into trauma work straight away, it's a slow process.