I too do not think that every girl's problems come from her father. Mothers can be just as damaging. Or it might not even be either parent's fault. Anyhow, it is rather miffing that he insists yours (have you told him otherwise)?

Wishing you lots of luck!! I find writing letters to be very therapeutic. I don't address them to my parent though as it makes me uncomfortable even on paper, so I narrate to my T instead.