thanks for sharing lilac, i also used to really hate when people told me i looked like my mom. but i was such a "good girl" (a persona I constructed, i now know) I turned all that hate onto myself. blamed myself for looking like her, for being her kid. always wanted to scream at my parents "why did you have me if you hate me so much!" ugh. what messes we cause ourselves. i'll be talking with my t about this in about an hour.