Hi DogTired, whether he's reading your personal stuff or not you know there's no excuse for his behavior and it's not just that he isn't helping he's also making things worse for you, right??
But try not to let him, hey??
Just like you said he easily has the opportunity to ask you how things are for you, he easily has the opportunity to offer you support (and if he doesn't know how he could ask you that too!!) but he isn't.
And it sounds like you have a really good/supportive friend there??!! If it comes to it then/if he's not able to give it, you don't need his support. If there's even just one person there for you, who "gets" it, that can make a bit of a difference, right??? So try not to let his behaviour take away from, those who do care.
And it's real good that you're planning on being so open with those at the IOP place, that's a great attitude to have. You keep going with that, anything/everything that may help, hey??!!!
Alison