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He also says that his biggest desire is for me to watch her suck him off and that most of the time when she is pleasuring him he is looking at photos of me. And while I guess I could watch it I feel it is wrong of me to encourage this unhealthy relationship.
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Tangled, he's not asking you for help or to be like his therapist or to be his salvation. He's grooming you to become a part of his intensely pleasurable sex life. He wants you to be part of the perversion. That would amp up his pleasure immensely.
It's not a testament to his respect and affection for you to be looking at your picture while his mother blows him or wanks him off. It's disrespectful and an insult. And if you were thinking straight, you'd know it. I hope he doesn't have nude photos of you.
Partners, spouses and friends can provide love and support to anyone who's going through challenging times. They can participate in couples therapy. But we can't be their therapists. We're too close. We're involved. We have no detachment.
He's feeding you a huge line of bull **** to feed your ego and pull you into this sick arrangement. You've researched genetical sexual attraction, now look up sexual grooming.
I mean, he had you halfway convinced you could watch his mother blow him, even though you know it's wrong. Darling, that's sexual grooming.
Your psychologist is obviously an optimist. (I had better say here that I've spent my entire career working with people who are deemed marginal by society, including a vast array of sex offenders, sex workers and criminals. I know bull**** and grooming when I see it and I'm seeing it.)
You cannot help this man. I can't tell you the number of times I've seen women act as enablers and participants out of their desire to help the man they love. I was one of the people who was there to pick up the pieces when the woman found her life and self-image shattered. You can't help him. Only he can help himself.
Run, Tangled, Run. You've been with him only 9 months. It's not a huge investment. This man is not worth another minute of your time. You're probably not the first woman he called his salvation, if they'd only ... you know ... help him a little.
Run.